"Having been committed to love someone, means losing the opportunity of having others to love you. So, be sure the person you are committed to deserves your love and worthy of your sacrifices…"
That is the quoted theory from one of my best pals. She’s been asking and wondering why she doesn’t have a boyfriend. And she even suggested me to write this topic here in my blog. But don’t get me wrong – she is so pretty, so sexy (wink), and so nice! – she has had tons of suitors. I’m neither a love guru nor a relationship doctor. I’m just one of those very observant and the kind of person wherein experience is my teacher. I’m not telling you that I have lots and lots of experiences. But I’m learning from the experiences of others.
That is the quoted theory from one of my best pals. She’s been asking and wondering why she doesn’t have a boyfriend. And she even suggested me to write this topic here in my blog. But don’t get me wrong – she is so pretty, so sexy (wink), and so nice! – she has had tons of suitors. I’m neither a love guru nor a relationship doctor. I’m just one of those very observant and the kind of person wherein experience is my teacher. I’m not telling you that I have lots and lots of experiences. But I’m learning from the experiences of others.
She once asked me: "How can I have a boyfriend? How can I find Mr. Right?". You want a boyfriend? First find out why you don’t still have one! There are plenty of things that can scare man away.
Okay, first of all, this is not all about my friend. She just gave me an idea on what to write but I am enumerating things in general. Let me close my eyes and think of all the girls in general. I’ll include here the complaints that I’ve been hearing from my guy friends. Okay, here it goes:
1. You Talk About Your Ex
For some girls, it is so hard to let go of their exes. But even though how much you loved your ex, or how disastrous your past relationship was, believe me when I say that he doesn’t want to hear about it. Talking about your ex will not help your rebound and will only keep your new guy wondering whether you’re actually ready to make a new commitment.
For some girls, it is so hard to let go of their exes. But even though how much you loved your ex, or how disastrous your past relationship was, believe me when I say that he doesn’t want to hear about it. Talking about your ex will not help your rebound and will only keep your new guy wondering whether you’re actually ready to make a new commitment.
2. You Hook Up… A Lot
The idea of "no strings attached" and having different guy each week may be exciting for other girls, but that's exactly where you'll end up—unattached. You might think this is the easiest and quickest way to getting a guy but more often than not it just send the wrong signal.
The idea of "no strings attached" and having different guy each week may be exciting for other girls, but that's exactly where you'll end up—unattached. You might think this is the easiest and quickest way to getting a guy but more often than not it just send the wrong signal.
3. You are the high-maintenance girl
When they look at you, they see a model of the designer wear. From your Louis Vuitton top to your Armani shoes. Even though you're glam to look at, many regular men prefer leaving it at just that. He might think that his entire paycheck will be going up in smoke just to keep you in the style you are accustomed to.
When they look at you, they see a model of the designer wear. From your Louis Vuitton top to your Armani shoes. Even though you're glam to look at, many regular men prefer leaving it at just that. He might think that his entire paycheck will be going up in smoke just to keep you in the style you are accustomed to.
4. The gold digger
In my language, it is known as the "bilmoko" girls. Some girls are trying to look at the net worth of a guy before getting to know him as a person. Some are trying to find this out by asking a guy to date her on a fancy restaurant and asking him to buy some expensive stuff. This will lead a man to run away from you as fast as he can. This is the easiest way of ensuring that you'll never gonna see him again.
In my language, it is known as the "bilmoko" girls. Some girls are trying to look at the net worth of a guy before getting to know him as a person. Some are trying to find this out by asking a guy to date her on a fancy restaurant and asking him to buy some expensive stuff. This will lead a man to run away from you as fast as he can. This is the easiest way of ensuring that you'll never gonna see him again.
5. You have very high standards
I’m not telling you to look for just anybody on the street. I admit that all girls have "ideal guys" - including me. You can have your ideals but not to the point that you are looking for a "romance pocket book guy" or the perfect man. Remember – nobody’s perfect! You have to love them despite their imperfections.
I’m not telling you to look for just anybody on the street. I admit that all girls have "ideal guys" - including me. You can have your ideals but not to the point that you are looking for a "romance pocket book guy" or the perfect man. Remember – nobody’s perfect! You have to love them despite their imperfections.
If one or several of these characterizations accurately describes you, it’s not too late to take a good, hard look at yourself and plan how you can make some subtle (or drastic as the case may be) improvements for the better!
It is not tough to find Mr. Right provided you have realistic expectations towards life. The only key to find him is to redesign your outlook towards Mr. Right. Don’t put too much emphasis on the outer beauty or materialistic things because that will never be everlasting, the only thing which will last is the compatibility!
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